As I sit here listening to my youngest snoring over the baby monitor I realize how much I hate those words added to job descriptions. They kind of sneak it in on the last line of the job description. Honestly it makes you think that it means only when on duty, and then once in a blue moon. Well depending on what the rest of your job description is there is a lot more night and weekend work then just duty and random ones here and there.
Night and weekend work effect every relationship differently. If you both work during the day, having evenings and weekends off, having Res Life take a night or a weekend away from your time as a couple can be difficult. It definitely makes you have to carefully plan date nights, weekends away and any recreational activities you would possibly be engaging in. If your significant other advises a student group usually their meetings are one a week night only because that's usually the only time students can meet when it doesn't interfere with classes. If you are a hall director all your staff meetings, hall government meetings, programs and other like functions happen in the evening for the same reason, you want to have high attendance so you want to have all of those happening not during class hours.
If you are on duty nights and weekend work take on a whole new meaning. It means that phone will interrupt everything. Even those student programs you are organizing. I will not go into a rant about the duty phone. See previous post about duty phones for more thoughts on that subject.
If your significant other is an advisor or a campus wide student group like my husband it will take several nights and weekends away from you as a couple. Like our relationship childcare and my work schedule has to revolve around his schedule. I don't mind that because if I have to request time off it honestly saves us money. Even though I am not working and making money, we are also not spending money on a babysitter. Also with advising a campus wide organizations, weekend work comes around more often because they tend to do more programs and larger programs. Sometimes weekend work will span the course of several days. Sometimes it turns into days away from the house if you attend conferences. I will delve deeper into conferences in my next post because that is a whole subject on it's own.
The key to night and weekend work is to have something for yourself to do. There are shows that I like to watch but he doesn't, so I take nights he works as time to watch those shows, or movies he would rather not watch with me. For weekends it's me and the girls so it's pretty much about keeping them busy so the day passes quickly for all of us. With kids the nights and weekends can be difficult because the kids will question where daddy is want to know when he will be home and honestly the when he will be home part is always difficult to say. When kids are involved it's always best to keep them occupied so they don't notice the absence. Obviously it's great that they miss their father/mother, but it can wear on them so keeping them occupied so they don't notice is actually a good thing for them, as it keeps them moving and just gives them other things to think about.
So when you see some nights and weekends on the job description know that it is more often then you think or will anticipate, but it won't kill your relationship. Honestly sometimes, that time away will be good and just make the next time you see each other a good reunion. Don't get upset about a night here and a weekend there, it's all part of residence life and everyone experiences. Honestly you could be upset about that those night and weekends aren't extra pay. LOL. Take everything with a grain of salt and realize that everything your significant other does extra for his job can help his/her career in the long run when it comes to moving up in positions, getting to be able to collaborate on bigger projects and getting recognition. Show them some love and patients when it comes to their late hours and weekends at work.
Sunday, October 12, 2014
Monday, September 15, 2014
The 'leash'
Or at least that's what my husband calls it. I kind of refer to it as the 'mistress'. No matter what you call it EVERYONE in residence life knows what I am talking about. THE DUTY PHONE.
Yup, I am going there. It's that thing that you know exists but you really wish there was a way for it not to be there, or ring as much. Unfortunately it comes around to you every year and depending on the size of your department, the rotation you follow and how high you are on the duty phone chain you get it several times a year. Also depending on how high you are on the duty phone chain it will ring more often then you care to answer. Yes when you have the duty phone it might actually ring more then your regular phone. It will ring in the morning, in the afternoon, in the evening, in the middle of the night. It will ring when you are eating dinner, it will ring when you are sitting at your desk getting work done, it will ring when you are in the shower, it will even ring when you are using the bathroom. Yup, that phone doesn't discriminate when it rings.
What some people don't understand is that this phone will interrupt a person's personal life. I was an RA and had to call the Hall Director duty phone a few times. Thankfully never in the middle of the night, but late at night and had to get the police involved and it took a while. It's one of those things that you know you are pulling them away from their time at home, their relaxation, their sleep but unfortunately it's something you have to do. If you are like my family and the duty phone rings, it means pulling Casey away from his family. Sometimes, if I am at work, the kids get to stay up a little later because bedtime gets interrupted by a phone call. Or I get a nice middle of the night wake up. It's not quite, it has to be a little loud to pull you out of a deep sleep. Only ONCE in the 8 years I have been with my husband have I slept through a duty call. I don't even know how I did it. I didn't find out until the next morning that the phone had rang at 1am and Casey not only answered it in our room, left to go downstairs, came back up to find clothes, left the house and came back into bed. That never happens to me. If you are like me and a light sleeper, I am sorry but you are going to get woken up in the middle of the night by a phone call at least once if not more a year. The middle of the night calls all really depend on the structure they have the duty rotation at your institution. Chances are you, or your significant other started at the bottom of the 'food' chain and got woken up a lot, but as you get higher in res life you might not get called as much.
If you are a hall director, living on campus actually could make duty a little easier. You don't have to travel too far(depending on how big the campus is) so if you need to leave it shouldn't take you that long. If you are like us and live off campus and you have to go to campus it makes that duty call just a little bit longer. But like I said the higher up you are the less you might get called and asked to come to campus.
Also if you have a family like us, it might mean keeping dinner warm until they can get home because they got a call just as they were walking out of the office. If you work in the evenings like I do and have kids, you might have to drive to them to drop the kids off so you aren't late for work.
It's really a juggling act to have a life while you are on duty. You cannot leave the city in which the school is in, you obviously can't have alcoholic drinks. Honestly would you want to go to the movies, because you might be interrupted and have to leave and miss the middle and/or end of the movie. I wouldn't know how you would explain leaving someone while you are on a date to answer a call, unless this person knows your profession and understands. I would say probably safe NOT to do on a first day with someone while you are on duty, unless you want to use that as your 'get out' phone call. ;)
Thankfully, depending on the duty structure of your school, you will only have it for a few nights, and probably at most a week at a time. Then hopefully you have a nice long break where you are down to just one phone. Although those duty weeks sneak up on you. My heart always drops a little when i see that second phone come out of his pocket. I just pray that it never rings in the middle of the night, or that he has to wake the kids to go to campus while I am still at work.
Hope all your duties are uneventful and pass quickly.
Yup, I am going there. It's that thing that you know exists but you really wish there was a way for it not to be there, or ring as much. Unfortunately it comes around to you every year and depending on the size of your department, the rotation you follow and how high you are on the duty phone chain you get it several times a year. Also depending on how high you are on the duty phone chain it will ring more often then you care to answer. Yes when you have the duty phone it might actually ring more then your regular phone. It will ring in the morning, in the afternoon, in the evening, in the middle of the night. It will ring when you are eating dinner, it will ring when you are sitting at your desk getting work done, it will ring when you are in the shower, it will even ring when you are using the bathroom. Yup, that phone doesn't discriminate when it rings.
What some people don't understand is that this phone will interrupt a person's personal life. I was an RA and had to call the Hall Director duty phone a few times. Thankfully never in the middle of the night, but late at night and had to get the police involved and it took a while. It's one of those things that you know you are pulling them away from their time at home, their relaxation, their sleep but unfortunately it's something you have to do. If you are like my family and the duty phone rings, it means pulling Casey away from his family. Sometimes, if I am at work, the kids get to stay up a little later because bedtime gets interrupted by a phone call. Or I get a nice middle of the night wake up. It's not quite, it has to be a little loud to pull you out of a deep sleep. Only ONCE in the 8 years I have been with my husband have I slept through a duty call. I don't even know how I did it. I didn't find out until the next morning that the phone had rang at 1am and Casey not only answered it in our room, left to go downstairs, came back up to find clothes, left the house and came back into bed. That never happens to me. If you are like me and a light sleeper, I am sorry but you are going to get woken up in the middle of the night by a phone call at least once if not more a year. The middle of the night calls all really depend on the structure they have the duty rotation at your institution. Chances are you, or your significant other started at the bottom of the 'food' chain and got woken up a lot, but as you get higher in res life you might not get called as much.
If you are a hall director, living on campus actually could make duty a little easier. You don't have to travel too far(depending on how big the campus is) so if you need to leave it shouldn't take you that long. If you are like us and live off campus and you have to go to campus it makes that duty call just a little bit longer. But like I said the higher up you are the less you might get called and asked to come to campus.
Also if you have a family like us, it might mean keeping dinner warm until they can get home because they got a call just as they were walking out of the office. If you work in the evenings like I do and have kids, you might have to drive to them to drop the kids off so you aren't late for work.
It's really a juggling act to have a life while you are on duty. You cannot leave the city in which the school is in, you obviously can't have alcoholic drinks. Honestly would you want to go to the movies, because you might be interrupted and have to leave and miss the middle and/or end of the movie. I wouldn't know how you would explain leaving someone while you are on a date to answer a call, unless this person knows your profession and understands. I would say probably safe NOT to do on a first day with someone while you are on duty, unless you want to use that as your 'get out' phone call. ;)
Thankfully, depending on the duty structure of your school, you will only have it for a few nights, and probably at most a week at a time. Then hopefully you have a nice long break where you are down to just one phone. Although those duty weeks sneak up on you. My heart always drops a little when i see that second phone come out of his pocket. I just pray that it never rings in the middle of the night, or that he has to wake the kids to go to campus while I am still at work.
Hope all your duties are uneventful and pass quickly.
Monday, August 11, 2014
It's that time
It's the most (insert your own adjective here) time of the year. Everyone in Housing and Residence Life flinches when you say just one word. AUGUST. Not only does it mean summer is coming to an end but it also means that colleges/universities around the country and preparing to welcome students back. It means that the days are longer(even though the sun is setting sooner and sooner). It means those 'also includes some weekends' statements in their job descriptions come to life. It also means for the significant other a lot less time with your partner.
There is hall director training that usually lasts at least two weeks, then of course there is RA training that lasts at least a week and then of course there is opening weekend. So basically it's crazy schedule followed by a little bit more of a crazy schedule then ending with the most insane weekend of the whole year. We as significant others have to understand that we may not see them as much, they may bring work home with them, they may come home late, they may even have to return to work after dinner. It's something that only happens once a year so cut them a little slack if when they get home late, maybe in a bad mood and will probably have to do work instead of spend time with you.
Just remind yourself that it's only a month and it is part of their job. They go through this every year. Just remember back to when you were in college and you moved to campus. If you lived on campus at all, everything that happened move in weekend, all the people, all your RAs and all the hall directors all got to where they were from the training that happened in August.
If you are like me training doesn't just happen in August. Casey coordinates the schedules so he is working on training practically year round. If your significant other does that you understand that training takes a lot more then a month. The planning involved in making the training that they go through is pretty massive. They don't do training for the fun of it. Realize that training is a way to teach the new people the ways of the university, it's also a way for the returning staff to learn up on new techniques get insight from others, find out any changes that may be occurring through out the year. Honestly it is actually a great way for the staff to bond as well. It's very important that the staff members get to know each other and feel comfortable with each other. Having a staff that knows each other and is comfortable with each other is very important to make the year go by smoothly. So training is the best time for that to happen. They do everything together during the month of August.
As much as you want August to be the last hurrah of summer, as much as you want to try and squeeze in one more weekend away, as much as you want to have one last cookout, one last bonfire it might not happen. It is a busy month and you just need to be patient and understand it's only a month out of the year and it only happens once a year. Be willing to listen if they come home and need to vent about something, because even though it's all planned out things don't always go as planned. Be willing to support their late nights, their trips back to work, their weekends at work.
I know this time of year has tested my strength and even at points tested my marriage. It's hard to not see my husband, it's hard on the kids not to see their dad, but we know that September is not to far away. What we usually do, if possible, is get out of the city during opening. You cannot get anywhere near campus to try and see anyone, you really can't go shopping.(so many college students picking up last minute things they may have forgotten). You really cannot even go out to eat, parents wanting to have one last night out with their kids, or wanting to eat before they hit the road. If you can, take opening weekend as a time for yourself. You will hardly see your better half and honestly it might do you some good after a long August to just recharge that way when September comes you are both ready for the new school year and ready to get back to 'normal' life. Well if there is anything 'normal' about housing and residence life.
There is hall director training that usually lasts at least two weeks, then of course there is RA training that lasts at least a week and then of course there is opening weekend. So basically it's crazy schedule followed by a little bit more of a crazy schedule then ending with the most insane weekend of the whole year. We as significant others have to understand that we may not see them as much, they may bring work home with them, they may come home late, they may even have to return to work after dinner. It's something that only happens once a year so cut them a little slack if when they get home late, maybe in a bad mood and will probably have to do work instead of spend time with you.
Just remind yourself that it's only a month and it is part of their job. They go through this every year. Just remember back to when you were in college and you moved to campus. If you lived on campus at all, everything that happened move in weekend, all the people, all your RAs and all the hall directors all got to where they were from the training that happened in August.
If you are like me training doesn't just happen in August. Casey coordinates the schedules so he is working on training practically year round. If your significant other does that you understand that training takes a lot more then a month. The planning involved in making the training that they go through is pretty massive. They don't do training for the fun of it. Realize that training is a way to teach the new people the ways of the university, it's also a way for the returning staff to learn up on new techniques get insight from others, find out any changes that may be occurring through out the year. Honestly it is actually a great way for the staff to bond as well. It's very important that the staff members get to know each other and feel comfortable with each other. Having a staff that knows each other and is comfortable with each other is very important to make the year go by smoothly. So training is the best time for that to happen. They do everything together during the month of August.
As much as you want August to be the last hurrah of summer, as much as you want to try and squeeze in one more weekend away, as much as you want to have one last cookout, one last bonfire it might not happen. It is a busy month and you just need to be patient and understand it's only a month out of the year and it only happens once a year. Be willing to listen if they come home and need to vent about something, because even though it's all planned out things don't always go as planned. Be willing to support their late nights, their trips back to work, their weekends at work.
I know this time of year has tested my strength and even at points tested my marriage. It's hard to not see my husband, it's hard on the kids not to see their dad, but we know that September is not to far away. What we usually do, if possible, is get out of the city during opening. You cannot get anywhere near campus to try and see anyone, you really can't go shopping.(so many college students picking up last minute things they may have forgotten). You really cannot even go out to eat, parents wanting to have one last night out with their kids, or wanting to eat before they hit the road. If you can, take opening weekend as a time for yourself. You will hardly see your better half and honestly it might do you some good after a long August to just recharge that way when September comes you are both ready for the new school year and ready to get back to 'normal' life. Well if there is anything 'normal' about housing and residence life.
Saturday, August 9, 2014
Saw this so I will share it.
Someone on my Facebook shared this link and I wanted to share it on here. Anyone in res life will understand every single one.
http://paulgordonbrown.com/2014/08/07/residence-life-explained-in-emoji/
Will be posting about the 'wonderful' month of August in the next couple of days!
http://paulgordonbrown.com/2014/08/07/residence-life-explained-in-emoji/
Will be posting about the 'wonderful' month of August in the next couple of days!
Monday, July 21, 2014
Let them have it
Everyone has a thing. You know something that they love to do that helps them escape and just relax and get their minds off of things.
From my experience it's very important for people to have a thing. Especially in res life, sometimes they need to be able to step away and honestly at times it's hard for them because it can be a very demanding 24 hour a day job. So letting your significant other have something that is just something that they do themselves is a really good thing. This gives them a chance to step away from everything and be in their own world, doing something they love.
For my husband it's Golf. He loves to golf and he is good at it. He uses it as a stress relief. He uses it as exercise. He uses it as something fun to do with his friends. He uses it as a way to work through things that may be on his mind. He uses it as a way to bond with his kids. And I let him have it. I don't mind when he goes out in the morning to go golfing and it leaves me to take care of the kids. I don't mind that once a week he goes golfing after work leaving me to get the girls dinner and sometimes ready and off to bed. I let him have it because he does so much for his job and for his family he needs to have something.
I love that he has something that helps his escape the pressures of life. I love that he has something that he loves to do and is passionate about that is not his work or his family. I love that he has something that brings his friends together and that they can do together. I love that he has something that he can bond with his kids over. Alexis has gotten into golfing and Casey loves that about her and I know he hopes that Chloe falls in love with it as well. I love that his passion is something that he can share with his whole family. There are times when we go out on the course as a family. Casey and Alexis play golf and I push Chloe in the stroller. But most of the time I let him have it all to himself.
But just like you should encourage your significant other to have something and you should let them have it, you should have something yourself and they should let you have it. And I am not talking about your family or work but something that is just for you, that you can do without them. Something you can use as an escape from the pressures of life. Something you can use as a stress relief. Something you have that you are passionate about. For me it's photography. I love taking pictures and have turned it into a freelance business. I offer my service to anyone who is interested in having photos taken. I am by no means the worlds best, but I take good photos. I do not do it to make a ton of money. I do it so people can have those memories for the rest of their life. I do it as a way to escape the stresses of life. I love being able to take pictures for people. I love taking pictures in general and that's my thing and I am very grateful that Casey lets me have it as well.
So let them have it and they should let you have it as well. Have something you can do together. Also have something you can do just by yourself and something they can do just by themselves. They will thank you for it, you will thank them for it, you will thank yourself for it. Everyone needs something and let them have it.
From my experience it's very important for people to have a thing. Especially in res life, sometimes they need to be able to step away and honestly at times it's hard for them because it can be a very demanding 24 hour a day job. So letting your significant other have something that is just something that they do themselves is a really good thing. This gives them a chance to step away from everything and be in their own world, doing something they love.
For my husband it's Golf. He loves to golf and he is good at it. He uses it as a stress relief. He uses it as exercise. He uses it as something fun to do with his friends. He uses it as a way to work through things that may be on his mind. He uses it as a way to bond with his kids. And I let him have it. I don't mind when he goes out in the morning to go golfing and it leaves me to take care of the kids. I don't mind that once a week he goes golfing after work leaving me to get the girls dinner and sometimes ready and off to bed. I let him have it because he does so much for his job and for his family he needs to have something.
I love that he has something that helps his escape the pressures of life. I love that he has something that he loves to do and is passionate about that is not his work or his family. I love that he has something that brings his friends together and that they can do together. I love that he has something that he can bond with his kids over. Alexis has gotten into golfing and Casey loves that about her and I know he hopes that Chloe falls in love with it as well. I love that his passion is something that he can share with his whole family. There are times when we go out on the course as a family. Casey and Alexis play golf and I push Chloe in the stroller. But most of the time I let him have it all to himself.
But just like you should encourage your significant other to have something and you should let them have it, you should have something yourself and they should let you have it. And I am not talking about your family or work but something that is just for you, that you can do without them. Something you can use as an escape from the pressures of life. Something you can use as a stress relief. Something you have that you are passionate about. For me it's photography. I love taking pictures and have turned it into a freelance business. I offer my service to anyone who is interested in having photos taken. I am by no means the worlds best, but I take good photos. I do not do it to make a ton of money. I do it so people can have those memories for the rest of their life. I do it as a way to escape the stresses of life. I love being able to take pictures for people. I love taking pictures in general and that's my thing and I am very grateful that Casey lets me have it as well.
So let them have it and they should let you have it as well. Have something you can do together. Also have something you can do just by yourself and something they can do just by themselves. They will thank you for it, you will thank them for it, you will thank yourself for it. Everyone needs something and let them have it.
Monday, July 14, 2014
Very Accurate
So I saw this link pop up on my Facebook feed and of course read it and found it very accurate and had to share.
Now most of us have dealt with a number of these in one way or another, especially through the course of dating and married life. Unfortunately it's something you deal with(especially the one directly related to res life).
Found it funny and wanted to share. I will be posted again soon, just need to find the time.
http://danceswithdissonance.wordpress.com/2014/07/14/24-ways-you-know-you-are-dating-a-student-affairs-professional/
Had to edit in order for you to be able to click on the link.
Now most of us have dealt with a number of these in one way or another, especially through the course of dating and married life. Unfortunately it's something you deal with(especially the one directly related to res life).
Found it funny and wanted to share. I will be posted again soon, just need to find the time.
http://danceswithdissonance.wordpress.com/2014/07/14/24-ways-you-know-you-are-dating-a-student-affairs-professional/
Had to edit in order for you to be able to click on the link.
Monday, June 23, 2014
Support
In the ever changing world of housing and residence life at a college/university it's very important to play a supportive role in your significant other's life. While it's obvious that that a relationship needs support, but sometimes your support will have to change moment to moment.
When I talk about change, there are all kinds of change that may happen an depending on what kind of change it is your support will change as well. Sometimes you will know of a change ahead of time and you will have time to figure out what the change means to your significant other, to you and to your family. Those kinds of changes are the easiest to support because you have time and can really discuss what is going on and come up with a plan of action if one is needed. Knowing you can be prepared for when the change happens is always the best thing, and you can figure out what kind of support to give very easily.
Not all changes will come with a long warning. Sometimes changes will be told with a little time to make the adjustment. Hopefully you and your significant other still have time to discuss what changing might be happening in their jobs and how it will effect them, you and your family.
Then of course there are changes that happen with little to no notice at all. These are the hardest changes to lend support to. Your significant other may not have a choice or a say in the change that has just occurred and you will just have to roll with whatever has been decided. You as the significant other may not understand what just happened, and honestly sometimes the person in the field may be just as confused. If you don't understand what is about to happen it's really hard to give any good words of encouragement or any possible advice.
When your find yourself at odds with how to support something, you always have to remember this is your significant others career and that most of the time they probably have no say in what happens at the office. You always need to let them know that you love them and that no matter what happens you will be there to encourage them, help them through the issues(if it's not something good). You may not like what is going on in their job but it's not for you to complain about because honestly there is nothing you can do about it. Chances are there is nothing your significant other can do about it. You can express your opinions on it but remember that you cannot change situations that happen.
Personally, I support my husband in everything that involves his career. Sometimes it's hard for me to be supportive, especially if it's something that will keep him away from his family. I just have to understand that what he does is good for his career and will help him advance in the field. Are there times I want to tell him to skip doing something because I crave time with him and I know the girls miss him? Yes of course, but I would never make him chose between something that will help him develop more for his job and him family. After being with him for seven and a half years I know there are some battles I will lose. We have been blindsided by changes before and it's hard to swallow sometimes, but the best I can do is tell Casey that I love him and that as long as he is happy I will support any decision he makes, whether that has been to start job hunting, take on extra responsibility, or stick out the changes and see what will happen from there.
When it came time to move to North Dakota, I wasn't the happiest of campers. I knew the climate and knew I wouldn't do well in the sub zero winters. I also knew that the job he would be taking was a great career advancement and that he might not get an opportunity like this again. Even though the winters are long and hard with kids I am very happy with our choice to move out here. Now that we are out here, he has excelled in his job and now has an opportunity to advance even more. I support his choice to try this new opportunity and will be there every step of the way.
Always make sure your significant other knows you love and support them 100%. Even if the only support you can give is a hug and a smile, the smallest support goes a long way.
When I talk about change, there are all kinds of change that may happen an depending on what kind of change it is your support will change as well. Sometimes you will know of a change ahead of time and you will have time to figure out what the change means to your significant other, to you and to your family. Those kinds of changes are the easiest to support because you have time and can really discuss what is going on and come up with a plan of action if one is needed. Knowing you can be prepared for when the change happens is always the best thing, and you can figure out what kind of support to give very easily.
Not all changes will come with a long warning. Sometimes changes will be told with a little time to make the adjustment. Hopefully you and your significant other still have time to discuss what changing might be happening in their jobs and how it will effect them, you and your family.
Then of course there are changes that happen with little to no notice at all. These are the hardest changes to lend support to. Your significant other may not have a choice or a say in the change that has just occurred and you will just have to roll with whatever has been decided. You as the significant other may not understand what just happened, and honestly sometimes the person in the field may be just as confused. If you don't understand what is about to happen it's really hard to give any good words of encouragement or any possible advice.
When your find yourself at odds with how to support something, you always have to remember this is your significant others career and that most of the time they probably have no say in what happens at the office. You always need to let them know that you love them and that no matter what happens you will be there to encourage them, help them through the issues(if it's not something good). You may not like what is going on in their job but it's not for you to complain about because honestly there is nothing you can do about it. Chances are there is nothing your significant other can do about it. You can express your opinions on it but remember that you cannot change situations that happen.
Personally, I support my husband in everything that involves his career. Sometimes it's hard for me to be supportive, especially if it's something that will keep him away from his family. I just have to understand that what he does is good for his career and will help him advance in the field. Are there times I want to tell him to skip doing something because I crave time with him and I know the girls miss him? Yes of course, but I would never make him chose between something that will help him develop more for his job and him family. After being with him for seven and a half years I know there are some battles I will lose. We have been blindsided by changes before and it's hard to swallow sometimes, but the best I can do is tell Casey that I love him and that as long as he is happy I will support any decision he makes, whether that has been to start job hunting, take on extra responsibility, or stick out the changes and see what will happen from there.
When it came time to move to North Dakota, I wasn't the happiest of campers. I knew the climate and knew I wouldn't do well in the sub zero winters. I also knew that the job he would be taking was a great career advancement and that he might not get an opportunity like this again. Even though the winters are long and hard with kids I am very happy with our choice to move out here. Now that we are out here, he has excelled in his job and now has an opportunity to advance even more. I support his choice to try this new opportunity and will be there every step of the way.
Always make sure your significant other knows you love and support them 100%. Even if the only support you can give is a hug and a smile, the smallest support goes a long way.
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