Let them have it

Everyone has a thing.  You know something that they love to do that helps them escape and just relax and get their minds off of things.

From my experience it's very important for people to have a thing.  Especially in res life, sometimes they need to be able to step away and honestly at times it's hard for them because it can be a very demanding 24 hour a day job.  So letting your significant other have something that is just something that they do themselves is a really good thing.  This gives them a chance to step away from everything and be in their own world, doing something they love.

For my husband it's Golf.  He loves to golf and he is good at it.  He uses it as a stress relief.  He uses it as exercise.  He uses it as something fun to do with his friends.  He uses it as a way to work through things that may be on his mind.  He uses it as a way to bond with his kids.  And I let him have it.  I don't mind when he goes out in the morning to go golfing and it leaves me to take care of the kids.  I don't mind that once a week he goes golfing after work leaving me to get the girls dinner and sometimes ready and off to bed.  I let him have it because he does so much for his job and for his family he needs to have something.

I love that he has something that helps his escape the pressures of life.  I love that he has something that he loves to do and is passionate about that is not his work or his family.  I love that he has something that brings his friends together and that they can do together.  I love that he has something that he can bond with his kids over.  Alexis has gotten into golfing and Casey loves that about her and I know he hopes that Chloe falls in love with it as well.  I love that his passion is something that he can share with his whole family.  There are times when we go out on the course as a family.  Casey and Alexis play golf and I push Chloe in the stroller.  But most of the time I let him have it all to himself.

But just like you should encourage your significant other to have something and you should let them have it, you should have something yourself and they should let you have it.  And I am not talking about your family or work but something that is just for you, that you can do without them.  Something you can use as an escape from the pressures of life.  Something you can use as a stress relief.  Something you have that you are passionate about.  For me it's photography.  I love taking pictures and have turned it into a freelance business.  I offer my service to anyone who is interested in having photos taken.  I am by no means the worlds best, but I take good photos.  I do not do it to make a ton of money.  I do it so people can have those memories for the rest of their life.  I do it as a way to escape the stresses of life.  I love being able to take pictures for people.  I love taking pictures in general and that's my thing and I am very grateful that Casey lets me have it as well.

So let them have it and they should let you have it as well.  Have something you can do together.  Also have something you can do just by yourself and something they can do just by themselves.  They will thank you for it, you will thank them for it, you will thank yourself for it.  Everyone needs something  and let them have it.

Very Accurate

So I saw this link pop up on my Facebook feed and of course read it and found it very accurate and had to share.

Now most of us have dealt with a number of these in one way or another, especially through the course of dating and married life.  Unfortunately it's something you deal with(especially the one directly related to res life).

Found it funny and wanted to share.  I will be posted again soon, just need to find the time.

http://danceswithdissonance.wordpress.com/2014/07/14/24-ways-you-know-you-are-dating-a-student-affairs-professional/

Had to edit in order for you to be able to click on the link.